Being romantic did u say? Yes and no.

A lot of discussions about it through my short life prompted me to just write smthing about the four letter word. About time I say!
Everyone seems to have gone through the same route, in one form or another. They fall in love. They fall out too. Or lets say, shit happens. And then how they work out from there, that's where it gets messy!! It is the time when we lik eto sing with shryle crow that the first cut is the deepest. It is the time when we think we will never love again cos either a, we still love our ex or b, we hate the entire species our ex belongs to.
There r many routes from here on...we go on this hate trip and vow o teach the world a lesson about not getting into relationships because they r hell! Or we get drunk and be a sad state of affairs feeling sorry for ourselves and try to garner as much sypathy even if we do not know that that is what we are doing. Or we just become so cold with not just disillusionment but with pessimism of it all.
The world is grey and soon it becomes dark. And we never want to open our eyes the next morning for we think there is none to come. Or that it will b grey as ever. We start to believe dat the sun will never rise again. So we try to sleep our whole lives away.
There are a lot of processes our minds go thru which wud b too many to talk about here but it shall suffice to say that we  dont get wiser! Hahahaha....raisd ur eyebrows, didnt u now? Trust me. We dont. It feels like we know all about love and we can tell people just exactly how it feels and what it is. There could b a lot of people who even after being with 10 peple wil think like dat and when ur views get support from them, then you think you are george bush and go and bomb iraq!! hehe...if only it were that simple.

The point that most people in their romatic ideals think is that their love is only for one special person...forever and eternity are nice romantic ideals to have but some serious soul-searching is needed. Love is too big to be chained to one person and more so, when you are no more with that person. Yes, it is possible to love a person all your life but you cant be in love with them all your life. For if it were, all life would stop.
I am a biker, and i am very attached to my first bike and probably will never sell it off cos no other bike can replace it. But that's a bike. Its material and somthing you possess. Entirely different. You dont own a person and you never can.

Obviously, noone can replace your first love. Especially cos it made u believe that u are capable of being in love, that there is smone with whon u can be in love with and that the world finally became a perfect place!! When it gets over, it does shatter a lot of beliefs and we think noone understands our pain cos at that moment we are the only ones feeling it. True, its hard to gauge what you are going thru but there wud be millions before you and millions after you who will feel the same way. You maybe special but not exclusive in ur "feelings". At that point, it doesnt matter. But the first love is what it is. The first love. And we get really stuck on that and that's why coming out of it is the hardest. But its is impossible only if we think it is.
Its not impossible to find smone new but yeah, your mind will b the biggest thing trying to chain ur endlesss love. And I suggest that everyone be sure to get out of their mental blocks before being with someone new 'cos it will not be fair to the new person in ur life if you believe what you do.  Every person is different and they need to be treated differently, loved differently. What we dont need are comparisons or even trying to see things that werent there earlier.
Live for the moment. How often we hear ppl say that or say it ourselves but forget to folllow it ourselves. What was it was. They r called memories. Supposed to stay in the past and make us wiser for the present. Usually makes us big fools but we grow out of that...eventually! Hopefully! :P
What stops us most of the times is convention and the traiditional ideas fed by movies and posibly "gyaan from elders". Sometimes it is a short trek to find our own way but sometimes, it takes a lifetime to get there as well. My suggestion is to get there asap!
Love is infinite and boundless. It cannot stagnate and it knows no face. We are the ones giving it a shape but we should always remember that we can never quantify it. It is in unlimited supply and for u to share. All the chains, all the shackles, all the constraints- they are all in our over-worked heads.
When you end something, end it with dignity but dont end dignity itself.
When you begin something, you always need hope and the willingness to wake up to see the morning sun.

Often it happens that when we have open minds, the roads we take are unlimited and limitless. When we keep them closed, we see shut doors evrywhere and the only way out is a cliff from which if we fall, death is certain. Its not profound, it is common sense. Yeah, we do need time and the willingness to see it. And i wll agree it is hard to see when you are still raw. Be fair to urself and be fair to the one you are with. Life is too small to hold on to things that make it shorter.

One thing will always stay- you can never chain your love.

 

 

(ok, too much senti here....yuck!)